Meeting mom friends is hard. First you have to put yourself in a place where moms hang out, like a park or library. Then you have to figure out if her kids are close in age to your kids so you two will have something to talk about(How many teeth? We just cut a big one. Oh, totally a strike, keep pumping and offering!). But before you can take it to the next level-the mom flirt- you have to see if she is enough like you to make the awkward friend dating worthwhile. Enter this list! The top ten signs you've found a crunchy mom.
1. Babywearing
You and your tot are out at the mall, and you see her through the crowd. Like you her stroller is nowhere to be seen. Instead she has her bub strapped to her chest or back in a soft structured carrier, wrap, or sling. You lock eyes for a moment over the sea of parents wrestling kids into strollers or using them for bags while kiddo walks, or pushing the empty stroller while holding the cranky baby. A connection is made.
2. Breastfeeding
This mom sees you nursing your little one and decides to join you on the park bench. You two bond over tales of nibbles and strikes. Covered or al fresco, this is a good starting point for a friend.
3. Cloth Diapers
Unless it's summer you might not notice this mama until you are in a bathroom jostling for the only changing table. You see the cloth and can chat her up about styles-pre folds or pockets? Rockin' Green or Charlie's soap? It's always fun to compare fluff!
4. Clothes Line
You are pretty sure she has a functioning clothes dryer, but you always seem to see her in the yard hanging things to dry. Including cloth diapers, of course.
5. Garden Grown
Most of your neighbors have a tomato plant or two, but this woman takes the cake. It seems like she has a fresh crop almost every season, even eating from her yard in the winter.
6. Birthy Goodness
She will tell anyone who will listen about her midwife, her doula,and her birth photographer. She may even offer pictures. Pregnant? She has a list of phone numbers for you to call.
7. Upcycling
Most people recycle, but she up cycles. Broken handbag? Patch it with scraps from the old shirt! Paint this old coffee can and you have a stylin' container for the garden shed. This mom can find a use for everything.
8. Knows the lingo
She understands this sentence: "We do delayed, but I think a lollypop party would be good for them." And this one " Well, it's raw vegan but not Paleo, I might be able to make it paleo if I try" and this one "I'm doing the Weston A. Price thing, and that with oil pulling did the trick-I don't even see my dentist anymore!" You get the idea.
9. Gentle!
No hitting, no biting, no yelling. Time in-not time out. She is a gentle parent through and through.
10. She tells you
"I guess you could call me crunchy" "I'm crunchy to the max" "Crunchy mama here!" It never fails, mostly because we can't hold it in much longer-we love to tell!
What do all of you think? Did I miss anything? Do you consider yourself a crunchy mama?
No comments:
Post a Comment